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For many of you you’ve heard my story before. But for those who are new to my world, allow me to introduce myself. I’m Laura T. Johnson and I am a survivor of domestic violence. I spent two and half years being abused physically and emotionally. I won’t give you the gory details, there’s no need for that. However, I will tell you how much it changed me. It turned me into person that stopped trusting herself. I went from an assured woman to a woman who couldn’t trust herself. I remember feeling as if I was losing my mind. That’s a feeling you never forget. There are a long list of things I will never forget. Hearing my own screams and feeling as though the tears would never stop, are just to name a few. I understand that moments in our lives are meant to change us. It’s part of the evolution of life. No one can go through their entire life without changing. It’s not possible. So, I changed again. After a few years of depression, thoughts of suicide, and then prayer; I became something better than the old me. I became the woman I’m supposed to be. I learned that I read people a lot better than I use to. I also learned that my strength knows no bounds. That through God I can do anything. Today, I come to you as a woman and a sharer of stories. Stories that help women and men with their own trials, and hopefully triumphs. As I’ve said time and time again, there is life after abuse. I am proof of that. Welcome to my world.
An assault on a woman does not occur once. It continues throughout her life. First, she’s attacked physically. A man decides a woman saying ‘no’ to his advances, should be ignored. Or maybe he takes this as a challenge and works harder to turn her ‘no’ into a ‘yes’.
Second, if she comes forward, she is vilified by the public. They ask her to list her prior sex partners. They delve into any other complaints she may have made in the pass. Was she drinking that night? How much? Was she flirting with him? What was she wearing? And what is the man asked? Nothing. He is touted as the victim. He is treated as if his world has been torn apart. He is not the victim! He is the monster! Only a monster can smile at you after he hurts you.
Lastly, the true victim must live with this the rest of her life. There is no forgetting and just moving on with her life. There will be nightmares, flashbacks, and a thousand other things that will make a woman feel as if she is losing her mind. And when you look her in the eyes and tell her that it was a mistake and that boys will be boys, you assault her all over again.
That is what our world has come to. It’s come down to women becoming game. The hunted. We are being hunted and our names are being crossed off lists as conquests. This is not a game; this is not fun. When will men learn that sexual assault is not a night stand or getting lucky on a date. This is rape!
Catherine Palmer and Dorian Wallace are about to walk down aisle. Everything is paid and ready for the blessed day. Nothing could go wrong. Or so she thinks. Catherine is about to find out there are some very high hurdles on the way to the church. And even more after she says “I do”.
Catherine is about to find out just how far she will go for love. And before their first year anniversary, Catherine is about to face the most horrible loss she has ever experienced. Can she move on? Does she have the strength to hold her marriage together no matter what?
Dorian Wallace can’t wait to marry the love of his life. And he will do whatever it takes to make that happen. In Dorian-like fashion, he creates a world where he is the only one in control. But is there a limit to his control over Catherine?
Catherine “Cat” Palmer is a journalism major at Howard University, and works full-time as a receptionist in an emergency room. Juggling work and studies has left her no time for a social life. When her friends drag her to a frat party one night, she doesn’t expect to be introduced to the campus heartthrob, Dorian Wallace. Dorian is a business major at the university, known for his wealth and prowess with women. When he lays eyes on Catherine, it is love at first sight. It doesn’t take long before the two become inseparable.
At first, Catherine is enamored with Dorian’s attentiveness, and is grateful for the new lifestyle his wealth has afforded her. It soon becomes apparent Dorian’s intentions are not honorable, and simply a means of controlling her. Catherine finds every reason to excuse his antiquated thinking and domineering behavior; however, ignoring his actions isn’t as easy for those closest to her.
Will Catherine have the strength to escape the abuse, or will their love remain Unbalanced?
Synopsis: Once separated by time and iron bars James is now back and claiming to be a changed man. But for every time Lisa says “no” a little more of who he really is resurfaces. James Harris is the man Lisa Jenson thought she would marry. He turned out to be the man who would almost kill her. Twice!